Have you thought about making love without penetration? It is a practical solution for many, especially teens. Love without coitus is a practical solution during a woman's period or when risk of pregnancy is of high concern. It also works when woman have vaginal yeast infections. For many woman, they may appreciate a refreshing change of pace from the wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am approach. There can be a lot of enjoyment in giving attention in new ways than when intercourse is the end goal. Here are a few tips to achieve great sex without intercourse:
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 1: Looking
The first stage of sexual attraction is looking at someone, noticing their appearance, and their face in particular (lips and eyes), then hearing their voice, noticing how they smile or toss their hair. Some people are attractive to almost everyone, some are the opposite. Some like watching a partner from their backside, others from the front. Think about the clothes you and your partner wear. Dress sexually for the eyes.
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 3: Talking
Talking to your partner can be highly stimulating. Describe your sexual fantasies with each other. Talk about how you like to be romanced and how you like to be touched. Tell sex stories. Taboo is talking about old boyfriends or girlfriends.
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 4: Touching
Touching is usually the beginning of sexual excitement and intimacy. Every part of us is sensitive to touch, and the feeling we get depends very much on the relationship. If someone is a relative stranger and we are touched for the first time, our sexual excitement is very strong, stronger than when someone is familiar to us. The touch of a hand against a hand, the caressing of a face, the lips close to the ear, the movement of a hand over your leg, the soft tickling of a thigh or the massage of neck and shoulders, they can all be exquisite and arousing, so that the heart beats faster, and a feeling of warmth runs through us.
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 5: Kissing
Kissing is the next stage. Our mouths are especially sensitive and the deep kiss, where the mouth opens and the tongues can play together, is usually at the center of petting. While we kiss, our hands hold our partner and explore their hair and face, back and front. Kissing is important. Do it gently and cautiously and playfully at first. Open your eyes, at least occasionally and say that you like it (if you do). Do not slobber or crush and if the other does, teach them. Don’t forget, kissing is not taught in any school and in very few homes, so most people have to go by intuition. Some really do not know how to kiss, and they have to be instructed. (See Petting, Art of the Great Kiss, Kissing Techniques, and Kissing Games)
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 6: More touching
Touching the breasts, or other parts that are usually covered, like the abdomen and the buttocks, is the following stage. Again it is important to be gentle and exploratory, not hasty or clumsy. It may look exciting to see people in movies lose their head completely in a frenzy of passion, but reality is different. Always be aware and enjoy what you are doing. (Read Playing with Breasts.)
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 7: Giving an orgasm
Finally - and this may come after many sessions of enjoyable kissing and petting - you can give the other an orgasm (by touching and stimulating their genitals. If you are agreed that you don’t need sexual intercourse yet, this is a perfect way to have wonderful sex without any worry about pregnancy or infection.
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 6: Masturbating a man
You can make a man cum with the touch of your hand or mouth. The first time you hold a penis is very exciting, maybe a little frightening too. But remember, he is very sensitive and vulnerable, so be very gentle and careful. Don’t start pulling the foreskin back immediately, but just hold it softly, move your fingers a little bit, look at it if you can. The penis is probably already hard and big the first time you touch it, because a man becomes aroused as a result of the kissing and caressing that you have already done. And if a man is very excited he takes only a very short time to have an orgasm. His semen will squirt out in three or four small gusts, so be prepared for that. It is a good idea to have some tissues or towel ready to catch the semen or wipe it away. Men especially like it when you want to kiss their penis, take it in your mouth and make him come by licking or sucking on it. (See Male Masturbation Techniques)
Sex Without Intercourse Tip 8: Masturbating a woman
Masturbate a woman by moving your fingers very gently at first across her vagina. She will probably be wet from the kissing and petting, otherwise you must wet your finger with saliva. The most sensitive spot is the woman’s clitoris and the area around it, which is located just above the vagina. You must be careful about rubbing too hard or quickly. Only when you feel that she is getting aroused, can you increase the rhythm of your stroking until she comes. Take her queues. Also make her come by kissing and licking her slit. Again it is important to do this very gently at first and show that you enjoy it. She can let you know if you’re doing it right. Oral sex is only safe if their are no infections. (See See Female Masturbation Techniques)
You definitely can have great sex without sexual intercourse. This non-penetrative sex is a wonderful way to get to know each other and talk about what you like, or discuss and solve any problem that comes along.
