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Cunnilingus or Oral Sex - Why a wife stopped liking cunnilingus - Question, Answers, Sex Advice

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Cunnilingus Question: Why would my wife stop liking cunnilingus?My wife and I have been happily married now for almost three years. While we were dating we performed oral sex on each other for almost the entire dating period and engagement time. If I wanted to go down on her, she would have no problem with it. The vagina does have a unique smell, but all I wanted to do is kiss and lick the most sacred part of her. I love to perform oral sex on her, but now she doesn't want me too. She says it smells down there, and that the odor stays on my lips, and she doesn't want to smell it or kiss me while we're making love. I have told her that she just needs to relax and just enjoy it. She has a beautiful pussy, it's very pink and shaven, and I just want too dive right inside it with my tongue. And she has reasoned with me a little bit, saying that I can do it sometimes. I think it's more for me than it is for her. But I just want her to know that her body is loved, and there is no part of it that will not go untouched.

Any advice, to help her ease up a little bit, and to let me perform oral sex on a regular basis?

- Steve

If your wife used to enjoy cunnilingus and now doesn't there is probably a reason that could be found and overcome.

If it's simple a matter of her not enjoying her own smell when you kiss her and make love, you could simply not kiss afterwards or brush your teeth before proceeding to other things. If you offer or try these things and she still doesn't enjoy it, it must be something else. You'll need to discuss with her the reasons she doesn't want this, correct that problem, and then try again. Then keep trying different things until you find what the real problem is.

It could be one of many different things, but here's a few to throw out there:

Perhaps she doesn't like giving you oral sex but feels obligated to after you perform cunnilingus. It's possible that you taste different than you did when you were dating from a change in diet, smoking marijuana, aging, prescription drugs, or any number of other things. If this is the case, changing those things or the use of flavored oil can help greatly. It's also possible that she didn't every really enjoy performing on you, but felt more motivated when you were dating (The same way many husbands used to always buy their wife flowers or cards, but slowed down on that one.) If this is the case then you just use the same approach to find out why and then fix that.

Do you have facial hair that you didn't before? Some women my enjoy this, but many do not. Especially with her being shaved, cunnilingus just might not feel good for her this way. The solution is obvious here.

Has she had any recent weight gain? You may think she's as beautiful as ever, but she may be dealing with problems with her body image. Some women with this problem can still make love when their face is being looked at or in the dark, but aren't comfortable at all when they're naked and in a position where you can see them in all their glory. Your solution here is to address the issue of her health and self esteem and the rest should eventually take care of itself.

She may feel that she tastes bad (no matter how much to tell her otherwise). In this case you can use flavored oil for her just to alleviate her fears. You may even find you enjoy that as well.

It's also possible that it's none of these things and you'll have to keep searching. You're only in trouble if she refuses to keep trying or if you do anything to make her feel bad about all of it. If you keep seeking the solution with love, understanding, and lots of good communication, you will figure it out.












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