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This in my first erection and ejaculation question, but after checking out your site it probably won't be the last. Alright, here's the problem, I'm 20, and I have been with about 5 females, the thing is that I was unable to ejaculate during any sexual encounter, but I can when I masturbate. I've been doin' it for about 4 years and never had a problem, my step-dad had porno tapes and I would sneak and watch them when I was 14, I started masturbating at 16, now I feel like that's the only way I can ejaculate.

Next problem, when I'm about to have sex I sometimes get nerves, and I have trouble gettin' an erection for a sexual encounter with a female. I mean I'm a little insecure about my size (I'm about 6 1/2) but I guess I've been used to seein' dudes on the pornos and I feel like I'm not up to par, so I feel like not havin' sex at all and I really have turned down alot of females because of that, so what I really want to know is how can I keep my erection, please my female, and are there any vitamins that stimulate grow down there? I don't want viagra or nuthin' like that I want to be able to keep it up myself, so if you could give me some ways that I could keep him ready to go to war. And how do I stay focused on a girl who's not that interesting in bed (when you're used to lookin' at porno stars) because I tend to get bored during sex sometimes, if my partner isn't really interesting. Well that's all I have for now. Thanx.

- JOe

Believe it or not, ejaculating during sexual intercourse is not always second nature—some guys have to learn how to do it. It's likely that the problem isn't that you're used to watching porn, rather it's because you are used to reaching orgasm the same way every time. This is not uncommon if you've always masturbated, for example, on your back with your right hand, then tried to ejaculate with a woman while lying on top of her.

What you need to do is experiment with different male masturbation techniques. Try lying on your stomach with your hand underneath you. Instead of moving your hand, use your hips to simulate the thrusting you would use during intercourse. Also, masturbate with your other hand and get used to having an orgasms from a different source. Once you get used to having orgasms from different things then you'll find that it's much easier with a woman.

As far as your penis size, this is an area where porn may have messed you up a bit. There are thousands of guys who want to star in adult videos so the directors have lots of guys to choose from. For them it's pretty easy to find a guy with an 8" erection, so they choose him because porn is made for men and it's men who think that size is so important. You may also notice that the men are shaved which gives the appearance of extra length and they are usually in good shape (a flat stomach will also make their penis look bigger). Combine these facts with a director who knows all the best angles to shoot and the result is an adult video where every man is hung like a very horny Mr. Ed.

Porn made by women for women wouldn't even consider penis size as a factor in casting because the majority of them just don't care about that. And by the way, 6 1/2" is larger than average so stop sweating it.

You can't make yourself turned on by a woman who doesn't interest you in bed. This is what being sexually compatible with someone is all about. You really have just two choices. If you like the woman then you can go on a sexual journey together and perhaps you can both grow as lovers and learn to please one another. Or, find someone who you are compatible with. Staying erect with a woman that doesn't turn you on will either take self stimulation, fantasy, or a happy pill. If you don't want to take anything you can ignore this, but we recently had one of the guys here try Stamina Max. We're pretty excited now because we wanted to find a less expensive substitute for Viagra. Of course it's not as good as the real thing, but he said that his erection was stronger with less effort than it had ever been. Also read about strong ejaculation secrets for more information about male enhancement and a new product called Semenax to improve erection strength.












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