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How to Explore BDSM


If you're interested in how to explore BDSM, it's likely that the first thing you need to do is to overcome your hesitation to discuss the issue with your partner. Many people feel embarrassed or nervous about broaching the subject, because they're not always sure how their partner will react. Keep in mind that there are more people involved in BDSM than you're probably aware of. Realize that your partner might be just as interested as you and could jump at the chance to explore it with you.

If you feel uncomfortable simply sitting down and talking to your partner about your desire to learn how to explore BDSM, try starting slowly. Instead of bringing up the most extreme thing you're considering, try adding a few elements to see how they react. For example, if you're interested in trying out nipple clamps, you might start by pinching your partner's nipples, or asking that they pinch yours. If they react favorably, there's a good chance they'd be willing to take it to another level and it will be much easier to let them know where your interests lie.

As you and your partner move on to discover how to explore BDSM, watching videos or reading erotica together can be a big help. Let your partner know what excites you and what you're interested in trying. Be open to what they're interested in as well. However, keep your limits in mind. Most people are willing to do what it takes to please their partner, but you don't want to cross over into an area where you're uncomfortable or turned off.

Another helpful step in how to explore BDSM with your partner can be making a list of every sexual practice you can think of. You'll want to list things like spanking, age play, rape play, anal sex, tying one another up and anything else you can think of. You'll then go through the list together and make a note of what you're most interested in trying, what you'd be willing to try and what would be completely off limits for you. This can create a good starting point as you work together to increase your sexual options.

Once you know what you're interested in exploring, it's important that you make sure to stay safe. Many couples find that as they learn how to explore BDSM, safe words can be a big help. Find a phrase or word that you can use in the event that you become uncomfortable. If one of you uses this word or phrase, it will indicate that you've gone past the point where you're comfortable and it's time to take it down a notch. Make sure that you pick a phrase or word like 'elephant' that won't normally come up during sex, to avoid any confusion.

Most couples find that the best way to learn how to explore BDSM is to start slow. Instead of beginning with a fantasy that involves costumes, other people, or special toys, you'll want to start off adding only one element or two at once. Keep in mind that many couples feel a bit awkward at first, especially if they've never tried this type of sexual activity before. It might take a few tries to get it right, but the reward is likely to be worth it.

When couples learn how to explore BDSM together, it can create a bond that will continue outside of the bedroom. In order for both partners to be comfortable and enjoy your new sexual ideas, make sure that you're communicating at all times. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, and don't be afraid to let your partner know if they're going too far.



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